“Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; re-made all the time, made new."
~ Ursula K Le Guin
"Love is not a bargain, it's a bond." ~ Sue Johnson
Your relationship is important. Whether you have been married for decades, or your relationship is brand new, having a secure bond with your partner, being able to feel understood and loved by this special person is a deeply rooted need. You want this relationship to feel like home. Yet every intimate relationship has challenges. Those challenges can look like communication tangles and conflicts that leave each person feeling hurt, or it can look like disconnection and a lack of emotional intimacy. Navigating differences in family history or culture, differences in ways of expressing feelings, or differing coping styles can often result in misunderstandings. If you are here, I imagine that you want to work through these challenges together to better understand each other, repair past hurts, and move towards a feeling of security and trust in your relationship. Engaging in couple therapy can feel vulnerable. It takes courage to risk being seen more deeply by your partner. Having a non-judgmental and supportive therapist can make a difference.
As a couple therapist, I listen in a balanced and empathetic way to each of your unique histories, ways of making meaning, emotions, attachment needs, styles of coping with stress, and patterns of interacting with each other. I support you each in conversations that allow for deeper understanding into areas that initially feel like challenges, but that may prove to be opportunities for connection. These dialogues are tailored to promote connection and empathy between partners. The approach that I use in therapy with couples is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT), an evidence based model developed to strengthen attachment bonds in relationships. If this sounds like something you are interested in, I would be happy to help in this endeavor.
Some things you can expect if you choose to work with me in couple therapy include:
* I will help create a safe environment to discuss challenging topics.
* I will collaborate with you to understand and work to address your needs in couple therapy.
* I will offer and demonstrate empathy towards each of you.
* I will facilitate opportunities for sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs, as well as to listen more deeply to your partner's thoughts, feelings, and needs.
* We will learn about your communication patterns, and I will help you to practice new ways of communicating.
* I will recognize and build on your strengths as a couple.
Testimonial
"Tamara brings to the table many years of experience in the mental health field. She is committed to continued education and growth. She has a calm and grounded presence. Tamara is experienced in couple therapy and provides a non-judgmental space for couples. I highly recommend Tamara for individual and couple therapy." ~Annia Raysberg, LMFT (colleague/ peer consultant)
~ Ursula K Le Guin
"Love is not a bargain, it's a bond." ~ Sue Johnson
Your relationship is important. Whether you have been married for decades, or your relationship is brand new, having a secure bond with your partner, being able to feel understood and loved by this special person is a deeply rooted need. You want this relationship to feel like home. Yet every intimate relationship has challenges. Those challenges can look like communication tangles and conflicts that leave each person feeling hurt, or it can look like disconnection and a lack of emotional intimacy. Navigating differences in family history or culture, differences in ways of expressing feelings, or differing coping styles can often result in misunderstandings. If you are here, I imagine that you want to work through these challenges together to better understand each other, repair past hurts, and move towards a feeling of security and trust in your relationship. Engaging in couple therapy can feel vulnerable. It takes courage to risk being seen more deeply by your partner. Having a non-judgmental and supportive therapist can make a difference.
As a couple therapist, I listen in a balanced and empathetic way to each of your unique histories, ways of making meaning, emotions, attachment needs, styles of coping with stress, and patterns of interacting with each other. I support you each in conversations that allow for deeper understanding into areas that initially feel like challenges, but that may prove to be opportunities for connection. These dialogues are tailored to promote connection and empathy between partners. The approach that I use in therapy with couples is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT), an evidence based model developed to strengthen attachment bonds in relationships. If this sounds like something you are interested in, I would be happy to help in this endeavor.
Some things you can expect if you choose to work with me in couple therapy include:
* I will help create a safe environment to discuss challenging topics.
* I will collaborate with you to understand and work to address your needs in couple therapy.
* I will offer and demonstrate empathy towards each of you.
* I will facilitate opportunities for sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs, as well as to listen more deeply to your partner's thoughts, feelings, and needs.
* We will learn about your communication patterns, and I will help you to practice new ways of communicating.
* I will recognize and build on your strengths as a couple.
Testimonial
"Tamara brings to the table many years of experience in the mental health field. She is committed to continued education and growth. She has a calm and grounded presence. Tamara is experienced in couple therapy and provides a non-judgmental space for couples. I highly recommend Tamara for individual and couple therapy." ~Annia Raysberg, LMFT (colleague/ peer consultant)
