"Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new." ~Ursula K Le Guin
Your relationship is important. You have forged a bond, and have developed ways of connecting with your partner that in many ways feel like home to each of you. At the same time, you are finding differences or similarities in history, approaches to life, or coping styles that result in a recurring disconnect or conflict. It may be difficult to move beyond certain communication tangles. There could be topics that are difficult to broach, or compromises that feel difficult to negotiate. You would like your relationship to be a safe haven. You want to work through these challenges together and better understand each other. Communicating with your partner in ways that strengthen the trust and intimacy of your relationship takes work. Having a safe space to explore these issues with a non-judgmental and supportive therapist can make a difference. Couple therapy is a process of honesty about yourself, and also sensitivity and curiosity about your partner.
As a couple therapist, I listen to each of your unique histories, ways of making meaning, styles of coping with stress, and patterns of interacting with each other. I support you each in conversations that allow for deeper understanding into areas that initially feel like challenges, but may prove to be opportunities for connection. These dialogues are tailored to promote admiration and empathy between partners. Couple therapy can provide a safe environment to work through barriers, and to rebuild and strengthen trust and intimacy in your relationship. If this sounds like something you are interested in, I would be happy to help in this endeavor.
Some things you can expect if you choose to work with me in couple therapy include:
* I will help create a safe and calm environment to discuss challenging topics.
* I will collaborate with you to understand and work to address your needs in couple therapy.
* I will offer and demonstrate empathy towards each of you.
* I will facilitate opportunities for sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs, as well as to listen more deeply to your partner's thoughts, feelings, and needs.
* We will learn about your communication patterns, and I will help you to practice new ways of communicating.
* I will guide conversations intended to help you gain insight into yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
* I will recognize and build on your strengths as a couple.
I am trained in Gottman Method Couple Therapy, Level 2, and I utilize this approach in my work with couples. Gottman Method Couple Therapy is a research based approach created from longitudinal studies conducted by John Gottman of the interaction patterns between partners. From those studies, John and Julie Gottman developed this approach to therapy designed to support the types of interactions found in relationships that thrive over the long run, and to mitigate the types of interactions that result in damage to the relationship. As a part of our work together, you will complete an assessment process based on Gottman research that will identify the strengths and challenges in your relationships. Once this initial phase is complete, I will guide our therapy together to support your growth as a couple, to build on your strengths and begin to heal in those areas that create challenges in your relationship.
Testimonial
"Tamara brings to the table many years of experience in the mental health field. She is committed to continued education and growth. She has a calm and grounded presence. Tamara is experienced in couple therapy and provides a non-judgmental space for couples. I highly recommend Tamara for individual and couple therapy." ~Annia Raysberg, LMFT (colleague/ peer consultant)
Your relationship is important. You have forged a bond, and have developed ways of connecting with your partner that in many ways feel like home to each of you. At the same time, you are finding differences or similarities in history, approaches to life, or coping styles that result in a recurring disconnect or conflict. It may be difficult to move beyond certain communication tangles. There could be topics that are difficult to broach, or compromises that feel difficult to negotiate. You would like your relationship to be a safe haven. You want to work through these challenges together and better understand each other. Communicating with your partner in ways that strengthen the trust and intimacy of your relationship takes work. Having a safe space to explore these issues with a non-judgmental and supportive therapist can make a difference. Couple therapy is a process of honesty about yourself, and also sensitivity and curiosity about your partner.
As a couple therapist, I listen to each of your unique histories, ways of making meaning, styles of coping with stress, and patterns of interacting with each other. I support you each in conversations that allow for deeper understanding into areas that initially feel like challenges, but may prove to be opportunities for connection. These dialogues are tailored to promote admiration and empathy between partners. Couple therapy can provide a safe environment to work through barriers, and to rebuild and strengthen trust and intimacy in your relationship. If this sounds like something you are interested in, I would be happy to help in this endeavor.
Some things you can expect if you choose to work with me in couple therapy include:
* I will help create a safe and calm environment to discuss challenging topics.
* I will collaborate with you to understand and work to address your needs in couple therapy.
* I will offer and demonstrate empathy towards each of you.
* I will facilitate opportunities for sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs, as well as to listen more deeply to your partner's thoughts, feelings, and needs.
* We will learn about your communication patterns, and I will help you to practice new ways of communicating.
* I will guide conversations intended to help you gain insight into yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
* I will recognize and build on your strengths as a couple.
I am trained in Gottman Method Couple Therapy, Level 2, and I utilize this approach in my work with couples. Gottman Method Couple Therapy is a research based approach created from longitudinal studies conducted by John Gottman of the interaction patterns between partners. From those studies, John and Julie Gottman developed this approach to therapy designed to support the types of interactions found in relationships that thrive over the long run, and to mitigate the types of interactions that result in damage to the relationship. As a part of our work together, you will complete an assessment process based on Gottman research that will identify the strengths and challenges in your relationships. Once this initial phase is complete, I will guide our therapy together to support your growth as a couple, to build on your strengths and begin to heal in those areas that create challenges in your relationship.
Testimonial
"Tamara brings to the table many years of experience in the mental health field. She is committed to continued education and growth. She has a calm and grounded presence. Tamara is experienced in couple therapy and provides a non-judgmental space for couples. I highly recommend Tamara for individual and couple therapy." ~Annia Raysberg, LMFT (colleague/ peer consultant)
